A mother decided to display a beautiful crystal bowl she’d been given for her wedding but had never used.
So she found a lovely spot on a bench and placed it there.
The family had a habit of losing their keys, so it became a reliable place to find the keys, and the stray coins, and the springs that pop out of pens, and the washers that somehow manage to find themselves loose, and the empty lolly wrappers and spare batteries, and …
It soon became the junk-collector.
Frustrated that a thing of beauty had become a source of ugliness, the mother cleared it out and planned to put it away again.
Until a thought popped into her mind that perhaps if she gave it a good purpose, it would remain a thing of beauty.
So she filled it with beautiful, healthy fruit. The sparkling faceted crystal enhanced the colours of the fruit and the bowl remained beautiful and full of purpose.
New Year’s Resolutions
I thought of the stories with which we are all familiar – trying to empty ourselves of bad habits. I thought about New Year’s resolutions to get rid of bad habits.
The thing is, often we try to empty ourselves without replacing the bad with something better, so garbage sneaks in again:
We decide to stop yelling – but have not learned other alternatives such as whispering. So we hold off our yelling for a while – but eventually explode.
We tell our kids or ourselves “Don’t!” – but don’t tell what TO do.
We complain that our loved ones don’t pick up on our clues – but we don’t tell them what we DO want.
We want to stop smacking – but haven’t actually been around gentle alternatives often enough or for long enough to see how they work long term.
And too soon, those things we’re trying to get rid of are replaced with even more garbage.
It doesn’t have to stay that way.
Before you make a commitment to say NO to something,
think about what you will say YES to.
With which beautiful thing will you replace the ugliness?
Find a safe place to discover and explore new and beautiful alternatives
– and often the difference between ugly and beautiful is just a little YES away.